“Discourtesy does not spring merely from one bad quality”

I am working tomorrow, a Saturday. I would like to sleep, but sleep will not come. It is after two in the morning.

I haven’t shaken the toxic mentality that I’ve been dealing with all week.

I am the only woman on staff, there are six men on staff. A small office. The men I work with confide in me, complain to me, and rely on me. That is when they are dealing with me one-on-one. But when they are a group ugly things begin the happen, things that put one in mind of the “Lord of the Flies”. It has been particularly bad this week, the boss is away on vacation and left no one in charge. Two of the boys have been trying it on, and getting through the week has been a miserable affair. There are circumstances that bring out the worst in people, and this week was one of them.

I count my blessings that I find solace in working hard, and can take an interest in doing any job well.

This weekend is a long weekend in Canada; Monday is Family Day. It is a statutory holiday, so Attila and I both have the day off. Since we both work Saturday, that gives us a two day weekend. A much needed break!

There, I feel better having committed my thoughts to the written word. Time for a cup of hot chocolate and a little read, a bit of self-coseting and I’ll be right as rain.

Worldly Distractions


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“Indolence is a delightful but distressing state; we must be doing something to be happy.”
Mahatma Gandhi
1869 – 1948

“Discourtesy does not spring merely from one bad quality, but from several–from foolish vanity, from ignorance of what is due to others, from indolence, from stupidity, from distraction of thought, from contempt of others, from jealousy.”
Jean de la Bruyere
1645 – 1696

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Stubblejumpin Gal (Kate)

Ahhh, is that what it is … groupthink? mob mentality? I think you’re right, though you hear of men acting like dolts individually in the workplace as well. There are still unevolved men out there! Did you hear the CBC radio interview last weekend about sexual harassment and assault of women in the military? It was a horrible story; I had no idea it was so rough for women there. We’ve still got a long way to go.


And you CANNOT let them see that they got to you at all!! Then you will never get their respect. You cannot complain, you can document individual behaviors and present those documents to your manager with a recommendation that when he is out of office for an extended time, that an acting manager is needed for security sake. What if there had been an accident or incident? There always needs to be a ‘chain of command’?