Unusual People

Attila and I are unusual people, in that we share relatively few reference points with other people, least of all the points of reference that many people incorrectly assume are universally shared. Attila shares more points of reference with the mainstream than I do, which enables him to pass a bit more peacefully through the world. Attila has a real feel for what people are comfortable hearing, and it takes little effort for him to sort through reality to pick and choose the things they want to hear. He pays a price for that though, because those points of reference are not necessarily those he feels are in tune with his personal beliefs. It is a messed up world. I do not have to face the crisis of beliefs, because those common reference points are few indeed for me, and it is such an horrendous amount of work to decipher what people are comfortable hearing, that I don’t even try. I have a completely different set of reference points, ones that are unseen by those who do not share them, but are nevertheless solidly based on and in reality. Attila and I share some common reference points, and this allows us to be comfortable with one another; it allows us to gaze outward together, because we do not have to watch our backs, or walk on eggshells, with each other. Attila and I are real and raw with each other, and it isn’t always pretty, but neither of us would want it any other way.

Worldly Distractions


Date: 6:00 PM EDT Thursday 1 June 2017
Condition: Mostly Cloudy
Pressure: 101.3 kPa
Tendency: Rising
Temperature: 15.1°C
Dew point: 2.8°C
Humidity: 43%
Wind: W 27 gust 39 km/h
Visibility: 24 km


“Life has taught us that love does not consist in gazing at each other but in looking outward together in the same direction.”
1900 – 1944

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Bex Crowell

Have you started the towels that go over the bar on the stove yet?

Steve Paul Simms

Nice appreciation. I’d like to meet this Attila.

TopsyTurvy (Teri)

You and Attila have been very lucky to find each other. Such matches don’t happen that often, I think.

DH and I call ourselves contrary. We have no problem not following a rule that conflicts with our personal beliefs. Fortunately, we don’t have amoral attitudes and tend to want to support and help others.

Over the years we’ve become better and better at agreeing to disagree, as we both have very firmly set convictions. Thank goodness the majority of the time our beliefs coincide, so we seldom have conflicts. We’re very comfortable with each other and know we have each other’s back. Even better, we can usually count on each other to pick up slack and ease burdens when something is weighing on either of us and we need some time to physically or emotionally rest.

It took quite a while but we know we’ve been very lucky to find each other.