I recently read an article by a married woman, a mother, who publicly outed her “eccentric” Dad as a disappointment in her life, with glorious derisive details. She seems to believe that all people feel as she does, when she says, “Here’s the thing about kids with eccentric parents: we never stop holding out hope for normalcy.” I am reminded of the joke and the quote with the punch line “what do you mean we white man.” [see quote below]
As a child of truly eccentric parents, I did go through a phase in adolescence where I burned for normalcy. Then I grew up, realized my parents were mere humans and unique individuals, with stories and lives of their own, unrelated to my fantasies and desires, which were shaped more by peer pressure and the media than they were by need or sanity. It is a rough go when you are perceived as different by your peers, and this is particularly difficult in adolescence, a period of time when young people have very little control over their social accoutrements, and suffer immeasurably from social pressures, however unreasonable they may be. On reaching adulthood we make our own choices, our parents are no longer legally or morally responsible for us, although they usually maintain a loving concern for all that we experience.
So, I was rather disgusted that this adult woman, a parent herself, publicly displayed her father as living a misguided and undesirable lifestyle, living alone and ardently pursuing his harmless hobbies. She concludes that an imperfect relationship is better than no relationship at all, well how generous. That woman is luckier than she deserves to be, that her father is willing to extend himself for such a relationship. That poor man has been waiting a long time for her to grow up.
That she, at her age, still harbours these false standards of acceptability, reveals that she suffers from extended adolescence. That she publicly displays herself as the arbiter of social acceptability, and her father as unacceptable, seems downright arrogant and disgusting.
I consider the woman to be disrespectful of her father, who she acknowledges loved her, cared for her, and laughed with his children. He was not violent. He was not neglectful.
Being loved and cared for by our parents is enough! If they provided that for us, they deserve our respect.
I will avoid reading any other articles by this woman, as I find her ongoing adolescent angst unworthy of serious consideration. I wish her luck with every tiny step she takes towards personal growth, and I hope for her sake that she moves past blaming her Dad for her own shortcomings, and begins to take responsibility for her own inner life.
There are mature, balanced individuals in the world, writing insightful and intelligent articles and posts. I am pretty sure they all felt, for the most part anyway, some version of adolescent angst, and have learned from the experience.
Little House in the City
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“A very popular joke during the 1960s involved the Lone Ranger and Tonto. The joke goes as follows (this is a quote):
The Lone Ranger and Tonto are watching a horde of Indian braves bear down on them in full battle fury. “Looks like we’re in trouble, Tonto,” says the Lone Ranger to his pal. “What you mean ‘we,’ white man?,” Tonto responds.
It has become very popular in recent years as a rhetorical device for essay writers who wish to write about situations where someone takes for granted that someone is his/her ally.
And amazingly enough, this joke appears to have been coined by a classic Silver Age comic book creator.
However, you’d be hard pressed to imagine WHICH one, as it was written by E. Nelson Bridwell, longtime assistant editor to Mort Weisinger at DC Comics! Before Bridwell went to work for DC (where he helped introduce a number of innovations when it came to the world of comic book continuity), he wrote gags for Mad Magazine. And the Lone Ranger joke was one of them.”