I am hoping to use developing Plan B as a form of recreation. Since at the moment the need for it is not imminent, I can approach it as an intellectual game, which is something I cannot do effectively when the need is real. So far I have determined that in reasonable neighbourhoods, I can afford a room with my own bathroom, with little to spare for necessities. Compared to homelessness, this would look good. So bottom line, not homeless, worst case scenario averted. This is a good starting point. I hope to work up from there.
I anticipate rage management is looming as one of my imminent challenges, I am up for it.
This morning I scrubbed the new floor in the the few remaining areas near the door to the basement, that have not received floor polish. After supper tonight Attila will move the refrigerator and stove, I will scrub the floor there, and he will apply the floor polish after the floor dries. It needs two coats, which will take up the entire evening, and the kitchen will not be accessible until tomorrow morning, at which time the appliances will go back where they belong. After that the only thing left to do is install the metal strips that get screwed onto the floor at the door transition points, to the flooring in the other rooms. It should be done and dusted by Friday night.
The day began with blue skies and bright sunshine, but now, mid-afternoon, the wind has come up and the sky has clouded over. It is still above freezing, and when I went out to collect the mail a slight drizzle was coming down. Still, for the last day of November, this is magnificent weather we are having.
I was just looking at images of the Duke of Cambridge and his family. They spend a lot of time attending events, in the public eye. And I thought to myself, that must be very tiring, how do they manage to appear relaxed and friendly all the time. Then I remembered that no one is allowed to be rude, or aggressive, or nasty to them, there are protections in place so that at every social event they are received with courtesy, and most often friendly smiles and polite conversation. How different that is from the public eye on the performer, who faces hecklers, some very rude behaviour, and is concerned with pleasing the crowd with their actual talent, not just their presence and their smiles; I think artistic performers are much more challenged to remain open and relaxed, while on parade, than the Royals… and meet the challenge, most of the time, but not always!
I attended a Bob Dylan concert that proved that an artist does not always rise to the challenge of treating the public in an open and relaxed way… a very disappointing concert. Sorry we pissed you off Bob. When you sold tickets we imagined you were into being on stage and singing to an audience.
Date: 1:54 PM EST Thursday 30 November 2017
Condition: Light Rain
Pressure: 101.2 kPa
Dew point: 1.6°C
Wind: S 34 gust 48 km/h
Visibility: 16 km
“The best way to convince a fool that he is wrong is to let him have his own way.”
1818 – 1885
Your saying above is not working with our president!
After the floor is done and the stuff is moved back, you might want to take a holiday from repair work! Maybe a romantic (?) trip away somewhere for a short time? xox
Needing rage management, or anger management, after what you’ve been through is certainly understandable. Hopefully, you can find a good counselor to talk to. Might be good to have some time with one on your own, even if Attila is willing to go.
We’ve had moderate rain here since sunrise. It only just stopped about an hour ago.
They may try to control how people react to the royals but that doesn’t mean it always works. Even even heard of rather unreasonable things said to the Queen, and you’d think people would have better things to do than talk coarsly to a 91 year old great grandmother.
I know I’ve seen fleeting moments of distaste on Katherine’s face. I think they are just really good at pulling on masks when they need to.
You are so right about that particular fool Bex! I think it applies to little, less powerful fools. Power is the element I think that needs to be taken into account with the saying.
I am all for taking a break from repair work! Attila was planning on immediately starting on the last of the bathroom renovation, minor things but time consuming. I won’t encourage that! A getaway sounds lovely to me, who knows, with no renovation going on, it could happen 🙂 .
Teri, anger is an interesting emotion, it can fuel a lot of positive change if handled carefully.
Yes, I thing you are right about the Royals being good at pulling it off, they are trained from childhood to smile and be pleasant and diplomatic. I would not want to be a Royal for all the tea in China, it a a big job.
I am amazed and impressed with how you are handling this crisis in your life! I don’t think I could be so strong and calm. Yes, do, if you can arrange it and afford it, go to a counselor. And, as Teri suggested, best to do it n your own first.
Diane, thank you, although this particular crisis has hit me harder than any other in my adult life, I will say that it has much more to do with the fact that I am so attached to Attila, and my age. I have faced much more severe circumstances than this in my youth, with people far less dear to my heart. Counselling is very, very expensive, ranging from $120 per session to $250 per session, one hour session. It remains to be seen if anything can be arranged, I continue to investage. Going on my own is a great idea. Since Attila is the one who has made a terrible, terrible mistake, he also needs to sort himself out, for both our sakes.