Joy of Wandering

One of the things I love about my “old age” is the joy of wandering. After having spent so many years being super disciplined in my professional life, and super responsible in my personal life, I am now, for the first time since childhood, able to follow my own inclinations, to some degree at least.

That means that when I sit down to quickly look something up on the internet, and something equally interesting catches my eye, I can follow that link! Usually, there is an eventual return to the original query. It also means that if a physical task seems wearisome, it can be left to accomplish in broken down stages, while other more interesting lines of pursuit are followed. After all, what’s the rush.

Having quickly become accustomed to following my interests around, I now find that it is in my own best interest to choose particular tasks to focus on, where I do not allow myself to wander. Keeping up the practice of focus seems important to me. And it is fun, because I can almost always choose where and when to focus.

The book is moving right along now. Most of the edits are completed, but the layout is still not quite satisfactory. The Canadian ISBN number has been assigned, and added to the legal page. The first copy will go to Archives Canada, as I am required by law to submit one copy. As soon as I get the second draft printed and bound, and assuming I am happy with it, the payment venue will be setup, and the shipping and handling costs will be ascertained with a visit to Canada Post. Then it will be good to go.

On Thanksgiving Monday, Attila moved the hutch from atop the bedroom dresser, into the living room. This was a very big project, moving all of the heavy boxes out of the living room and piling them up in front of our beds. Then moving the hutch from the back bedroom to the living room, and assembling the drawers and doors. Then moving all the heavy boxes blocking our beds into the back bedroom, which is not impenetrable.

What this meant was that as of yesterday morning, I could begin to unpack the boxes marked “fragile”. They held our good dishes and assorted other glass objects of affection. Last night I finished unpacking the last “fragile” box. There are glasses, and bowls, and whatnot, spread out all over the living floor and every available horizontal surface. However, at least two items I know of are missing, so I suspect another “fragile” box is lurking somewhere.

Today all of the china and glasses are being washed and dried before being stored away. Fragile items were wrapped in newspapers, which leave quite a lot of smudge and film on the items.

When my girls were born, and while they were little, my sister bought them Peter Rabbit and Bunnykins china for Christmas every year. There is a lot of nostalgia and love in those cups and bowls. We no longer have room for them here at Mist Cottage, so they are going to their owners. That is two packing boxes full of china to go, one to Luna, and one to Terra.

Also, I have a set of Wedgwood dishes that were purchased for me by my former mother-in-law. On a personal level, those were not happy years, the marriage was not a happy one, and the dishes do not bring joy to my heart. But I do recognize that my girls had a completely different experience with my mother-in-law, so I first offered these valuable dishes to Luna, who did not want them, and then to Terra, who does want them. They will fit into Terra’s country house beautifully. That is two more boxes of china that will be passed along.

A total of four boxes of china are sitting by the door, ready for a new home.

It will, however, be a tight juggle to fit the remaining china into the hutch. We gifted my custom made hutch, buffet, dining room table and chairs to Terra and Lares; it provided lots of storage. The hutch we kept does not hold much, but it fits into Mist Cottage, so it was kept.

It is interesting, Attila and I have purchased “cheap” Ikea furniture, and have been given old and used furniture, over the years. I came into our relationship with some very expensive furniture, china, and other valuable belongings. We are gifting to our children most of the valuable furniture and china, and keeping the cheap stuff. We like it better, and there are no negative memories attached to it.

This reflects my perspective on life, people are more important than money or things, and always have been for me. I would not go back to those empty affluent days of my life for love nor money. Those were days that I focused on making other people happy, hoping some of it would come around and make my life happier, which it did not. I do not regret trying to make other people happy, it was nice to see it was possible. I have since learned though, that it is my job in life to make myself happy, which is what I am busy doing. Better to learn this late rather than never.

Today someone is driving from quite a distance to pick up the Futon. We decided to give it away, as it will not fit into Mist Cottage and it did not sell on Kijiji right away. It was surprising that it took five days to find someone who wanted it, after offering it free on Kijiji. We also have two easy chairs that do not fit into Mist Cottage. They were at the end of the driveway with a “Free” sign on them, but there were no takers. Right now they are sitting in the garage waiting for us to make a decision as to how to proceed with them.

It is a sunny, beautiful day today. I plan on going for a walk at some point, just to escape the boxes and feel the wind on my face.

Worldly Distractions

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Quote

“Conceal a flaw, and the world will imagine the worst.”
Marcus Valerius Martialis
40 AD – 103 AD

11 Comments

  1. What you described as “wandering” is what I totally love about retirement. Especially as it relates to the internet. Wandering from site to site with no time constraints is truly magical sometimes. There is just so much out there that is interesting.

    I remember once a commercial ad on tv where the man said he couldn’t go with wife because he had to check out the internet or something, and when she came home, he turned and said “All finished, I saw it all…” or something like that. to think nowadays that anyone could see it all is just mind boggling… How big is it? As big as the Universe, I suspect. Which boggles my mind too.

  2. crochetlady or Lee Ann

    Gifting items to the next generation seems to be wise, to see them enjoy the items while we are alive to see it makes sense. We are in the process of ‘do we take it/do we leave it?’ decision making. Most things are easy. It is the little things that trip us up- the small 2 cup electric coffee maker is the perfect example. I voted keep cause if the big one goes, it will take awhile before we could afford to replace it.

    Wanderings on the Internet can waste the day away. Give me a good book instead! Even if it is a cookbook!

  3. TopsyTurvy (Teri)

    Maggie, I can agree with enjoyment of finding time to ‘wander’, whether it be on the internet as you said or with a good book or cookbook, as Lee said. Today, I’ve done both. I’ve wandered on the internet some, seeing what’s happening in the news of the world, I’ve checked my FB account, and I’ve been reading a new book. It’s nice to have the time for that.

    Of course, I still have things I want to do for my business, too. I’m currently putting together a new set of Halloween clip art and also trying out a new physical product that I’m considering. Who knows where those will go. Well, the clip art will definitely be offered – hopefully soon, as the holiday is now near.

    We still have many things we really do need to part with. We still have many duplicate items and unused items from combining our households that need to move on – either into the trash (very old board games) or onto new homes (lots of glassware, so much that we’ll never use).

    It seems to be a problem that our house is large enough that we have room for all this stuff. We have little impetus to remove the items, though I’m slowly moving more in that direction. There’s no doubt that I do prefer to work on my business then spend time devising ways to divest ourselves of all this stuff. :-7

  4. Bex, “the internet is huge”!

    “16 years of video is uploaded to YouTube every day.”

    Source: http://www.websitemagazine.com/content/blogs/posts/archive/2014/07/22/do-you-know-how-big-the-internet-really-is-infographic.aspx

    Sixteen years of video uploaded every day, we literally could not keep up with it, even if we dedicated out lives to the pursuit.

    I love having an encyclopedia at hand at all times. I really missed it when we were traveling back and forth from the country house to the little house in the city, over the last five years. We would pass some fields, or a lake, and I would wonder what the land use was beyond and out of site. I would have looked it up on Google earth if I had the internet in the car!

  5. Lee Ann, you are doing before your move, what Attila and I are doing after our move… “do we take it/do we leave it?” or in our case “do we take it/do we donate it?”. We opted to keep duplicates of items we knew we could not easily afford to replace, and we are fooling ourselves that we are saving all these duplicates for “the trailer”, that mythological travel trailer in our dreams, 🙂

    Books! Oh yes, I too love to wander through books. I can’t reach ours right now though, they are lining the walls in the back bedroom, which is full of boxes floor to ceiling, for now anyway. I have taken to reading books borrowed from the Ontario Library Service, on the computer. I like books better for reading though, just something about the way they feel in my hands.

  6. Teri, there really isn’t a lot of incentive to get rid of things if you have room for them, that is how we came to own so much stuff in the first place. We did purge from time to time over the last eleven years, but I see now that we did not do a very good job of it! Downsizing is a great incentive.

    As Lee Ann pointed out though, it is nice to have two of certain kinds of things, like a coffee maker, so that if one breaks down you still have the other to fall back on.

  7. NORA

    Hi Maggie,

    Good news about your book! Yay!

    I have a problem with all of the things hubby and I inherited from the family. We have no children to pass anything along too and our siblings have plenty of family heirlooms already. In fact most of mine were adopted by my sisters during all our moving. It saddens me not to be able to pass things along as you can. The few things I have I will keep to the bitter end and probably end up selling.

    I too will keep duplicate items when it seems logical. We had just purchased a toaster oven last year when the following week my sister gave us hers. Well, hers is a much better quality than ours but I didn’t want to give our new one up or return it because I knew someday we will need a new one and may not be able to get it right away due to living from pay check to pay check. So we have a back up. I did the same with a vacuum. With the birds a vacuum is vital.

  8. Kate, the dishes, Attila approaches them in the very same way. If I help him, he gets annoyed, because it interferes with his “flow”! When I do dishes it is with a great focus and intensity, to get it over with as soon as possible. My sister and I always did the dishes for a family of eight, with all the food cooked from scratch, and it was no small task. We worked together and eventually got it streamlined so that we were out of the kitchen within the half hour.

  9. Nora, I hear you, thank goodness your sisters wanted the family heirlooms! I too have certain items I will keep with me until the end, my Grandmother’s handmade Canadian Centennial quilt, which she gave to me when my first child was born, her first Great Grandchild. Things like that make me feel warm, physically and psychically.

    Having backup appliances can really make life a lot easier when things wear out. We have three toasters, ridiculous yes, but I am keeping all of them. The really good one we had at the country house is on the kitchen counter here at Mist Cottage. The ubercheap one we bought for Mist Cottage before we moved here, is in a box of items slated for the mythical travel trailer. The third toaster is one I got for just a few dollars at the tail end of an estate sale, when the children were starting to pack what was left for the dump; it is almost new. Then there are the two microwave ovens…

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