September 4, 2001

Nobody here but us chickens...



Here are a few of my favorite online haunts:

[This is the site I visit to fantasize about living in Toronto again, which is almost every single day during the winter]

Jonathan Cainer's Zodiac Forecasts
[This is where I visit in the morning, when I need a positive spin on things past, present and future.]

Living Local
[This is where I go to see what Canadians are up to, sometimes I even buy things from the businesses listed there.]

Environment Canada Weather
[This is the site I visit every morning, and before every road trip during the winter]

I am "bugged". Perhaps distress has amplified my reaction, perhaps not.

I have been bumping around the Internet, having a look at sites geared to discussions about children leaving home. The "Empty Nest Syndrome" discusses this phenomenon, but the information I have unearthed to date assumes, almost exclusively, that the child has left home to attend college or university. This assumption leads to commentary that fails to address my concerns and experiences.

When children leave home for destinations other than higher education, concerns for their well being and their future prospects differ from the concerns held by the parents of immediately college-bound individuals.

"Is our situation so unusual?" I thought.

A quick trip to the Statistics Canada web site revealed that the majority of Canadians, with English as their mother tongue and between the ages of 25 and 29, had attended a College, Trade School, or University (no indication that they graduated). The remaining forty-five percent of that segment of the Canadian population had not attended institutions of higher learning.

Clearly, not all young people leave home to attend college or some form of higher education. Not heading for college right out of the nest might not even be considered unusual.

It was a relief to establish that Terra's departure from the family home does not constitute a shocking anomaly in Canadian society.

"Perhaps," I thought, "the term "Empty Nest Syndrome" is meant only to describe families where the children have left to pursue a higher education."

However, a visit to www.bartleby.com revealed the following definition for "Empty Nest Syndrome" from The American Heritage Dictionary of the English Language: Fourth Edition. 2000:
" A feeling of depression experienced by some parents after their children have grown and left home."

College, university, and higher education do not seem to be a part of this popular definition. It might be worth taking a run to the University library to do a more thorough and academic search, but I think my time is better spent accepting the above definition and moving on from there.

I will continue my Internet reading. Since no sites seem to address issues similar to my own, I will continue to read what is out there and glean bits of useful information and insights wherever I can. It will be a long and arduous task.

Attila and I are enjoying our time together more than ever before. Our relationship began when I was a single mother of two. We have been, from the beginning, a family with children. Now we are a couple without children, for the very first time. I had worried from time to time, that without the challenge of childrearing that we would have nothing in common; what a waste of time those worries were.

This time of life is one of extremes, extreme concern for and worry over Terra, and extreme joy and delight in being alive and having Attila in my life.

I do not know whether to laugh or cry, so that I do both.

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Page by Page: A Woman's Journal
by Maggie Turner

Canadian Maggie Turner writes and publishes poetry, photography, and a personal journal online. Her work reflects the current way of life in Canada, embracing Canada's past, present, and future in a unique portrayal of everyday life. Maggie's voice is one of the many that actively depict the rich diversity of Canadian culture.

Photography: "a term which comes from the Greek words photos (light) and graphos (drawing). A photograph is made with a camera by exposing film to light in order to create a negative. The negative is then used in the darkroom to print a photograph (positive) onto light-sensitive paper.
Source: University of Arizona Glossary

Poetry: "a form of speech or writing that harmonizes the music of its language with its subject. To read a great poem is to bring out the perfect marriage of its sound and thought in a silent or voiced performance. At least from the time of Aristotle's Poetics, drama was conceived of as a species of poetry."
Source: Creative Studios

Journal: " "Though a journal may be many things - a treasury, a storehouse, a jewelry box, a laboratory, a drafting board, a collector's cabinet, a snapshot album, a history, a travelogue..., a letter to oneself - it has some definable characteristics. It is a record, an entry-book, kept regularly, though not necessarily daily.... Some (entries) will be nearly illegible, written in the dark in the middle of the night.... Not only is it a record for oneself, but of oneself. Every memorable journal, any successful journal, is honest. Nothing sham, phony, false...." (Dorothy Lambert from Ken Macrorie's book, Writing to be Read )
A journal is a way to keep track of your thoughts about what you read... as well as what you did on any given day."
Source: Journal Writing

A Blog is an online journal created by server side software, often hosted by a commercial interest.

"The term "weblog" was coined by Jorn Barger[4] on 17 December 1997. The short form, "blog," was coined by Peter Merholz, who jokingly broke the word weblog into the phrase we blog in the sidebar of his blog Peterme.com in April or May 1999.[5][6][7] Shortly thereafter, Evan Williams at Pyra Labs used "blog" as both a noun and verb ("to blog," meaning "to edit one's weblog or to post to one's weblog") and devised the term "blogger" in connection with Pyra Labs' Blogger product, leading to the popularization of the terms."
Source: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/History_of_blogging

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